When ending a relationship, this can be a thorny time. This article has simple things that you can do to make it a smoother time for you and your ex partner.
1.Avoid Breaking Up Over The Phone, Text or Email
If you are the person finishing the relationship and you care for the other person, give them the respect they warrant and do not use the phone, email or text to end the relationship. Have the audacity to arrange to meet up with them and face them in person.
2. Keep it personal.
While you were dating, you were privilidged to information about the other person’s personal life, their family, their job situation, their finances and I’m sure much more. When the relationship is over, do not feel it gives you the right to tell everyone all you know about the private life of your ex partner. If you want to maintain a good friendship with them in the future, this will only show you are immature and trying to hurt them.
3. Do not send erroneous signals.
If the relationship is done, do not keep sending incorrect signals. By this I mean, don’t keep emailing them frequently, texting them daily, calling over to their house when you feel like it. This is telling the other party that in your eyes it is not really done and you would be willing to start dating once more. If this is not the message you want to send, be very clear in your words and also your actions subsequent to the break up.
4. Do not isolate yourself.
Include your friends and family. Talk to them about how you are feeling, especially if you begin to feel depressed or it has become a hurdle to your work or study life.
5. Do not ricochet with your ex partner’s best friend!
If you want to keep up a healthy friendship with your ex partner in the future, do not start dating their close friend straight after you have broken up. It is just not the right thing!
6. Focus on the good.
Even though the relationship has ended, there were good times that both of you enjoyed. If you only focus on the bad times, you can become bitter and angry at either yourself or the other person. Don’t hold onto anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and will prevent you from moving on.